Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Thank God I'm A Horse-woman

If I would have been a horse-woman when my children were little, I would have broken big jobs down into smaller tasks more. I would have asked, gotten out of their way, and allowed them to try more. If I would have been a horse-woman when my children were little I would have made them doing the right thing a lot easier and doing the wrong thing much more difficult for them. If I would have been a horse-woman when my kids were little, I would have used show-sheen on their manes and bought providine at the feed store in the big jug for a lot less. If I would have been a horse-woman when my children were little, I would have rewarded them with praise on every real try and made sure I didn't reward them when they didn't try. I would have found an opportunity to always end our encounters on a good try.

If I would have been a horse-woman when I was married, I would have made more time to take my husband out to play. I would have groomed him more and returned him to his own space when I was done. If I would have been a horse-woman when I was married, I would have complained about his messes a lot less and just hired a ranch-hand to clean up after him. I would have soothed his aching muscles more, allowed him time to get used to new ideas more, asked for more of the things he was good at giving, and found more reasons to praise his good tries.

If I would have been a horse-woman when my children were little, I would have learned a lot more about sibling herd dynamics. I would have stayed out of the way more and let the kids work out their own pecking order. If I would have been a horse-woman when I was married, I would have understood the need for some studs to be dominant and I would have gotten out of the way and let my husband be the leader. I would have learned to lead from within the herd and been more comfortable with my placement at the second bucket and more thankful to have a good leader.

If I would have been a horse-woman back then, I would have been a better wife and mother. I would have had more fun, less worries, and just enjoyed the ride more. Thank God I am a horse-woman now! Watch out!

5 comments:

kiki said...

Wow, makes me want to be a horse-woman, too. It also sounds like you are using some techniques from behaviorism to teach those horses.

Kimberly Brixey said...

Yes, after working with horses, kids, and husbands, behavior speaks louder than words.

Rose Eiesland Foster said...

I just love your blog! I am a widow too. Please check out my blog, too. I'd love to correspond.

Rose

Kimberly Brixey said...

Thanks, Rose. I'll check it out.

ItsMeLord said...

Now that speaks volumes! I thank God everyday that I am a horsewoman, and I love seeing the changes it has made in you. It is never too late to start.