"If  you want to teach your horses to be easy to catch, start by catching the ones begging to be let in first," advises horse trainer Clinton Anderson. "As you start weaning down the herd, you'll notice that [hard to catch] horses get more willing to be caught. No one wants to be the last horse in the pasture because a lone horse in the pasture is easy pickings for predators." Clinton says that eventually the horses that are easy to catch will train the other horses to be caught easily, too. They soon learn being caught isn't so bad afterall. It actually comes with benefits like sweet feed and human companionship.
     The opposite occurs if you start by trying to catch the unwilling ones first. As they begin running away from you,
 their elusiveness energizes the entire herd to play the running away from you game. This is how horses survive. They take clues from each other and react as a group. If someone in the group thinks they are going to be eaten, you don't ask questions, you run away with them. If you instead question their reaction, it could be you that gets eaten.
     You can't teach a horse to ignore their natural instinct to follow the herd. That is how they survive. However, you can teach them to follow the example of a horse that trusts you and wants to be with you. This is the same way God instructs us to show others who he is. We are not to run out and try to rope people who are running away from God. Rather, we should set an example with our lives that draws people to us  and shows them God's love for us.
    In the horse world, there are not many words. A subtle pinning of ears or swish of the tail is enough to send another horse running along their way. Horses are in tune to things we do as handlers that we aren't even aware we do. A glare or step forward sends a clear message to your horse to move. Relaxing your posture allows a horse to think its okay to move in for a scratch or stop from their work to rest. As a follower of Christ, unbelievers and seekers are as in tune to your behavior as a horse is to his handler. They see things you do you don't even realize you are doing.
   It is clear in Paul's instruction to wives that our behavior sets as much of an example to follow as that of horses in their herd.  "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives (1 Peter 3: 1)."  His instruction is a powerful example of how we show God's love to others by the way we live our lives and how we win them over to Christ without coercion. It's not about chasing the horse that runs away from you but rather letting the one that is willing to be caught set an example. We should not concentrate on correcting the behaviors of unbelievers but rather on keeping our own behavior as believers such that will lead them to the One who saves them.